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What do I do if I am attacked from the other side? pt 1

The seriousness of being attacked can not go untalked about. I mean what happens when you are attacked on a psychic level, how are you supposed to handle that? First let me tell you that I have been attacked plenty of times, physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychically. So far I have been able to bounce back from all and that is because I do not let anything have power over me at any time, I never let anyone or anything drive my car so to speak. My car can get dinged and dented and every once in a while a rude passenger will jump in and put their feet on the dashboard but that’s ok, it all buffs out. Ahead I am going to give some examples of attacks and how to handle them if they happen to you. Of course what activity you are engaged in or the location you are in could have lots to do with the attack and how it manifests. I would like to say this also, I have never ever been attacked while doing a reading for anyone. Never ever, not ever! So please don’t worry about being attacked or bringing anyone home with you from a reading, those spirits are not interested in harming you or seeing your living room.

Certainly the most jarring to all of us at first is the physical attack, it affects us on the surface and the reality we live and operate in most. When something violates us and comes into our space especially when it means to hurt or harm us we go into fight or flight mode and that amps up the fear factor off the scale. A spirit knocking things off shelves or touching you is all I hope you ever encounter at the most but sometimes we get a mean one that brings it to another level. I personally have been scratched, punched choked and strangled all on different occasions and those are the least invasive attacks in my opinion. I don’t let fear get the best of me when things start physically interfering with me or attacking me, some sage and some prayers can usually break up the energy just fine and stop the nonsense. In one instance, if you read my story about the mirror and the boy from a case file you know that I found a mirror in someone’s home amplifying the negativity and helping facilitate physical activity. I gave the family my advice on how to rid themselves of the problem by disposing of the mirror, the spirit that was attached to the mirror did not like that. unfortunately I didn’t realize it until I went to sleep that night. During a dream a man approached me, stood in front of me nose to nose and without hesitation or flinching jammed his entire hand and arm down my throat causing me to wake up and physically have vomit induced from it. That was a scare tactic and I imagine most people would have been frightened or lost sleep over it. I however knew just what it was and knew that the spirit just used its most powerful tool in its tool box. I went back to sleep without a problem, I said a prayer and that was that.

Can you handle a little vomit? Yeah of course you can, we all do it at one time or another and it isn’t pleasant but it is not life threatening. Another time I was followed home and choked, which you can read in my previous blog about the haunted theater, and another time I was scratched on the face, I will have pics posted to instagram for you to review. They were razor-sharp and were placed there to make a point, back off. With that being said I want everyone reading this to know that I do not in any way ever provoke or threaten spirits. It is not my way and I think it is reckless. All of the attacks I have endured are because I simply was a threat and because I was there to help the living push away the paranormal problems they are having.

Emotional attacks are harder to deal with than the physical, they make your body feel like garbage. I always feel as if someone I know has died and it puts me into a feeling of heavy grief. This is a very powerful attack and something that the spirits can play off of if they recognize your weakness. I have had this happen when I am least expecting it. When I go to help people who have a haunted home or possibly have attachments I fully protect myself the best I can, but I am just human and sometimes there are holes in the armor. I am an empath and tend to be very deep feeling so for me this is a very big hole and when an energy sees it they go for it. It can take hours for me personally to recover from such an attack. The most important thing to do when you are feeling this way is to realize that it is happening and that it is not your own emotion. This could help you thwart the attack and minimize the effects. I always revert to prayers in this instance and ask my Guides and Angels to push away the negative.

A spiritual attack is a rough one also and the severity of it will depend on your belief and your faith, no matter what it is you believe in it is all dependant on you. More malevolent spirits will get you to question your beliefs and break you down, this is usually a long-term attack and will cause anxiety and depression. When the spirit is broken everything else will fail with it, that is the absolute truth. Your faith and spirit move your outer body and push you to move in a positive direction everyday. Now, we all get down day-to-day and that is ok. Of course it is apart of who we are and what we are made of. I wouldn’t jump to spiritual attack right away if you are having a bad day, again we all have a bad day. If however it is a persistent pushing and nagging that is making you doubt yourself and your faith and those around you and this is out of the norm for you than yes, look in this direction. The best thing to do when you feel this way is to find your church, whatever that may be. Go to a place where like-minded folks gather to pray or meditate and ask for good energy and vibes. You will find them, take them in and concentrate on digging out of that hole everyday. Use your soul and your light to push away the dark and say no to the temptations that are trying to fill the void in you, there is no void. Your Spirit is in there and wants to shine!

This next and final attack is one that in the beginning of my career doing this until this very day is the most potent against me. It is the psychic attack and it may sound more science fiction than reality but it is real. This is when an entity uses graphic images and pushes them into your mind’s eye, perhaps creating a scene where your family member or loved one is dead and is portrayed in a violent scene in your mind. They often use other types of scary images to show that they are serious, I have seen everything from what I just mentioned to a rabid black dog showing me its teeth as a warning to back off. This attack is for me the hardest to ward off and that is because when i am performing an investigation I am using my third eye and it is open, so it is free range for them to jump in and implant what they want me to see. I know what they are doing now but when I was younger it would constantly be a problem for me, if something thought I was a threat it would use this tool to get be to back off, there are many places I never returned to because of such an attack. It doesn’t have to be just visual either, I have heard voices and they have said nasty things. It is very important that if this happens to you for you to leave the space you are in, say a prayer of protection and quickly ask for protection from your Guides and Angels. Do not try to fight this type of energy on your own, our mind is very powerful and can pushed into making drastic decisions that don’t need to be made.

If you are going into areas that people tell you they know is haunted it is very important to prepare properly and I will talk about that in another article. For now keep these various types of attacks in mind and remember them if you feel something is coming after you with ill intentions. You are in charge, walk away and pray. Keep in mind people you may be trying to help could be experiencing these things as well. Remember to practice what you know, you are psychic and you can do this. Don’t forget to meditate and come back for protection practices!



Learn how to meet your Spirit Guides! guest author Betsy Chrstie

Hello Everyone! Welcome back and I sure am glad you stopped by. We have the pleasure of welcoming a guest author today who has written an article about meeting your Spirit Guides. She brings a wonderful energy to our little spot here and brings a wealth of knowledge, she is a practicing psychic Medium and draws spirits she meets. Later she will write and post all about that as well, I can’t wait. Please enjoy the article and put into practice what you learn, this is your journey! 

Spirit Guide Connection


Your spirit guides are waiting for you to say “Hi!”. 

Believe it or not, you already have a unique connection with your spirit guides. We come into life knowing and talking to our spirit protector. As we grow, we forget or are told there is no such thing.

Like most people, I’ve always been connected to my spirit team but I didn’t know they were spirits. I thought their suggestions were my instincts kicking in, like maybe I was a little bit psychic. Our Guides say things like ‘turn left here’, ‘call your mother’, ‘don’t trust Billy’, etc..

Fast forward to now. Now, we watch television shows about Mediums talking to ghosts, we see memes about connecting with spirits. Something that would once have singled people out as ‘weird’ is no longer considered taboo. In fact, being psychic is often seen as ‘cool’.

There are many ways to meet and connect with your spirit team – books, audio books & even Youtube has many guided meditation videos specifically created to help you meet your spirit guides. 

When I learned that we all have our own spirit team I wanted to connect with mine. My first attempt, I connected with an earthbound spirit, thinking he was a guide. The second time, I was in a mediumship class (because I needed help getting rid of the earthbound). Our teacher told us to each hold out one arm and ask our Spirit Protector to touch our hand. She said we could feel anything from a tap to a warm puff of air. I did, it worked! Yay! So, I asked to have my nose touched as confirmation. I felt that too. I was thrilled. So excited. Then, I felt a strange soft tap on top of my head, one on my forehead, one on my cheek, another on the bridge of my nose. I called the teacher over and explained what I had experienced and what was happening now. She glanced at the top of my head, the look on her face changed to ‘OMG, what is that?!?’. After taking a breath, she said “I don’t know how to explain this… it’s like you have little, I don’t know, dust bunnies bouncing on you”. Of course I did. I laughed.

I had to discern who I was talking to & what was touching me. Eventually, the challenges strengthened my connection with my spirit team. 

When I saw my team for the first time, perhaps even the first two times, I wept, I sobbed & I laughed with joy. The love from my spirit team was so pure, intense, completely unconditional, bigger & stronger than any love I’d ever felt. They hold back you know, cause if we felt their full blast of love we’d be little more than puddles on the floor.

Some say that only our Spirit Protector, also called our Guardian angel, is with us our entire life. I believe our spirit doctor also stays with us throughout our lives. Perhaps spirit doctors care for several people, or everyone in the same family, similar to human doctors, but much better. Your spirit doctor helps with financial issues, family issues, job issues and health issues. A spirit doctor may call in other spirits to assist with more specialized situations. At one point in my life, I had three native American Shaman spirits helping me to heal. Another time I had a spirit guide step in to help me understand suffrage.

We also each have a Spirit Teacher. Teachers change as we learn and our interests expand.

Everyone can learn to feel their different spirit team members unique energy. 

Examples: When learning something new or studying in school – your spirit teacher will often be near you. 

At night, before falling asleep, if you ask for healing – your spirit doctor will begin to work on you.

When you feel frightened – ask your spirit protector to protect you. When you’re walking down a dark street alone, it’s good to know the feel of your protector walking with you.

Spirit Guides – the magic bringers

My guides love to hear me laugh. They play & give messages through songs on my car radio. I’d quit smoking for 3 days and then, I lit up as I was driving somewhere – ‘Smoking in the Boy’s Room’ came on the radio, busted!! Another time, I was driving through a creepy part of town, alone, at three in the morning. As I turned onto Main Street the song ‘Down on Main Street’ began to play, reminding me I wasn’t alone. While visiting friends in North Carolina, I debated driving home a day earlier than I’d planned. Cyndi Lauper singing ‘Girls just wanna have fun’ came on the radio, suggesting I stay and have more fun with the girls. Radio messages happen frequently. Usually it’s a line from a song that jumps out at me, not the entire song or the song title.

I do Spirit Art – Sketching deceased people and spirit guides. For me, it’s sketching while being coached by an Artist who is in spirit. At times I do channeled or trance sketches – not knowing what’s being drawn until it’s finished. Recently, a new spirit artist has begun working with me so he can learn how to connect & instruct other humans. I also do a sort of automatic writing. I write questions or make observations and spirit answers through me as I write.

I feel my spirit protector touch my hands or my shoulders when I need a reminder that she’s with me. One of my guides, who identifies herself as wind, plays with my hair.  They make me smile & laugh out loud.  Spirit helps me lift heavy objects – my king size mattress, mini refrigerators, boxes, etc. They’ve fixed small problems with my car. They’ve helped me find clothes that represent who I am now. They offer feedback, give insights and perspectives. They keep me comfortable when its cold. The list is endless. We can ask for help with anything and if spirit is able, they will help. But, we need to ask.

I believe we decide before we incarnate into our bodies what type of connection & interaction we will have with our spirit guides. There are people who will never make a stronger connection with their spirit teams than the inner voice who cautions and directs.

Some say we choose our guides from spirit friends and family that we have incarnated with through several lifetimes. Chances are good, if you have a strong sense of humor, your guides will too.

People say their dog is their best friend. I get that. I do. But, think on this… Can you imagine the unconditional love your dog has for you multiplied by 10,000?

Betsy Christie

Music and the way we listen Podcast

Go ahead and click the link below for my first ever “podcast” event. I took the blog and just spoke freely about something that has inspired me throughout my life. I will continue to post podcast type events in the future, they are fun for me and it helps us connect in another way that we haven’t before. Please enjoy!


The Energy We Put Out

During the day we all put out a ton of energy in more ways than just our physical exertion. We eat food to gain calories that turn into energy for us to use to move around the physical world we live in. It is something that we have been doing since we came into the world and have to do until we pass on to the next realm. You know what else we use lots of energy doing? Putting energy out in the form of thoughts and it takes a toll on our spiritual self. Real quick to touch on a subject, we have two selves, our physical body and a spirit body. The spirit body is what occupies the physical body and gives it life and the physical body is how we interact with each other here on this plane. I know you know that, I am just recapping so that it is fresh in your mind for this little blurb.

So, we eat food to keep this physical body going. What do we use to keep our spirit body going and where does the energy go and how in the heck to do we expend spiritual energy? There are long answers to all of those ideas, we are going to explore the more condensed version of them so that you can get back to your day with some easy ideas to retain.Every time   you go out into the world you make an imprint on the energy around you, at the convenience store, at work or school and in other people’s homes. It is true, think about your mood and how it affects others day-to-day. When you smile the people around you smile back, when you are grumpy the people around you are not responsive or they are and are grumpy back. That is the really simple example of how to see the energy that you are putting out but it certainly goes deeper than that.

When you go somewhere and spend some time there you are imprinting on that space, like if you sit on a memory foam mattress for a moment the foam comes right back but if you sit there or lay for a while the foam takes longer to bounce back. Now lets say that you sit there in that spot every day for a few years, the foam eventually just molds to your body. Now lets say someone else comes along and sit in that spot, they are going to feel that groove you placed there and it would take a while for them to get comfortable in that spot. When you push your energy out into the world it is very similar to that. If you spend a moment in a place and smile the immediate people around you will smile, if you spend every day in a location being happy then the people entering that space will be affected by that energy and reflect it when they enter that space.

I am sure that you have heard that being happy is easier than being angry, physically emotionally and spiritually that is true. We are all human so it is hard to be happy all the time so it is important to recognize your mood and adjust yourself accordingly. This is important when you are out in the world especially because leaving an imprint can be tiring and drain you for days to come if you aren’t careful. Here is what i do to prevent this from happening; When i arrive home I imagine the places I have been that day and think about their being a gold cord there that is still attached to me at the belly button. (you go ahead and try that right now.) Then I think about my imaginary scissors and take them out, I cut that chord and say to myself “I am calling back my energy.” (Ok, you do that now.)

Doing that exercise once or twice a day will not only help you but it will help the people who are in the space you have occupied. If you were in a good mood that day than you can simply cut the cord and leave the energy there, good energy is easy to replace and I will talk about energy replacement next. So, doing this everyday will become a habit and you will find yourself less tired and connected to the world which will help make you feel better and more energized to take on the next task or next day. Keep reading to learn about taking in new bright energy and feeling your best every day!

After you have recalled all your energy you may still feel tired or be feeling emotional and that’s ok! Now we are going to learn how to bring in fresh new energy and let go of all that negative stuff that came back to you. This is easy and only takes a few minutes to do. First go ahead and sit down somewhere comfortable. Put your feet down flat on the floor and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and exhale. Feel how nice and relaxed you are. Now, think about a golden and white light above your head. It should be so bright that if you looked at it would be like looking at the sun, got it? Ok now that light is going to be like liquid, very fluid and is easy to pour. Let that golden white light flow down over your head and right down your body. Does this sound silly? I thought so when I first started doing it but I had faith and did it anyway, so please continue. Let that light flow all through your body, it can travel as fast or slow as you like. I like it to flow like someone dumped a bucket of water over me, it is quick and refreshing. Go ahead and do that now, do it a few times for practice and soon enough you’ll just do it without thinking and you will feel better.

Keep in mind that you can also be imprinted on by other people and places that you visit. I tend to get stressed out by anxiety when I am at the grocery store, sounds kind of funny right? I have no idea why of all places I go that this kind of environment is the one that brings me the most trouble. Sometimes I imagine that it’s all the parents running around with everything on their minds and they do lots of reflection while in the store, leaving behind imprints that effect me. When I go to arenas for sporting events or converts I can feel an absolute exhilaration that I love and can’t get enough of. Walking to the seats through the tunnel and seeing the center of the venue, brings me excitement just thinking about it. I would say that was due to the large amount of positive feelings that have been left there over the years. So it’s not alway bad when we imprint on an area or other people, just remember to mind those negative feelings and flush them out.

I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it. I will be writing more on this in the future, this is a big subject with many different areas to talk about but this is the beginning, the first brick to this wall. Remember to practice and have faith in yourself, you are psychic and you are amazing!



A Boy and a Haunted Mirror

This story like all stories you will read here is based on a case that I have personally been involved in. It started like most do, a text on my phone from the groups founder Patrick. His texts are always short and to the point and go something like this when it’s emergent “This person just called and they have a crazy story.” I’m paraphrasing, but for the most part that’s how the ball starts rolling. In this case there was a small boy who I will call “Tim.” Tim was about 8 years old and deathly afraid to sleep in his bedroom alone. It was at the point that his father actually placed a second bed in the room so that he could sleep next to his son.

To me that was certainly an issue, I have children and don’t think that i would ever move a bed into their rooms to sleep. Patrick went on further to say that the family had been experiencing shadows, noises and that at night Tim was behaving oddly. The family had 2 other children one a little older and one a little younger who had not been experiencing much of anything. I asked Patrick to send me photos of Tim’s room taken by the parents. I have a gift of being able to read psychic energy from photos and before we get into a home it is useful for me to have an idea of what me may be getting into.

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The room was like any other young boys room, except the two beds of course. I did pick up a little energy from a piece of furniture but nothing that was definitive. After looking at the photo’s I told Patrick to make a date with the family soon and we could go investigate. So within a week or so we were forty minutes south of base in somewhere NJ at an apartment complex to help a family. We met with Tim’s mom and dad first, Tim was out playing with friends and that was good because I was able to get a good read on the situation without him there. Patrick and I carried a skeleton amount of gear into the apartment to use during our meeting and what would be a very brief investigation.

The four of us sat down at the kitchen table where Tim’s Mom and Father both spoke to us and recounted stories of what had been happening. Dad’s stories were the most compelling to me, and mostly due to the fact that he came across as a person who was skeptical of the entire thing, until he had his own encounters. He stated that after a few weeks of Tim refusing to sleep alone he moved into the bedroom and decided he would sleep there to help provide a piece of mind and show Tim that there was nothing to be afraid of, and that’s when things started happening to him.

One evening after going to bed Tim’s father woke up from a sound sleep by an invisible force pressing down on his throat and strangling him. He stated that during the attack he was also paralyzed which he attributed to the spirit holding him down. He said that it eventually got off of him and he was able to get up off of the bed. This was the first of the three major events that happened to him in that room. The second; Tims father woke up from a sound sleep because he could hear his son talking, he looked across the room and saw Tim sitting up, playing with action figures. He told Tim to put the dolls away and go to sleep. Tim did not react at all he kept doing what he was doing, this prompted dad to get up to take action.

Dad walked over to the bed and the dolls fell from above the covers and to the bed, Tim was sound asleep and snoring. Dad said that he could see Tim’s outline playing and as he got the bed the dolls dropped, this was the second time that something had happened in the room that was unexplainable. The last thing that he explained was this; He was asleep and woke up to some kind of noise in the room, as he looked up at the ceiling he could see black long shadows and they were coming from the dresser mirror in the room. He started yelling and the tentacles retreated back into the mirror. This was the conformation that I needed about the feeling that I had about that item.

I left the room and went to Tim’s room, I placed my hands on the mirror and the dresser and got the impression that it had been somewhere else before they had owned it. As in it was used by someone else and not bought from the store. I saw something that was a scary image, and not that it was actually scary but because I touched it and this was what I saw it was scary. Christ hanging on the Cross bleeding and dying. That is how I saw him, not like the crucifix but actually Jesus on a Cross and dying. This was odd to pick up from a mirror and I figured it was to try to frighten me away, picked by an energy or entity that did not want me there. I went back to the kitchen and explained to the family that the mirror would need to be removed.

They asked why and I told them what I had seen, with that they confirmed that the piece was owned by someone in the building that had moved and gave it to them. With that Tim arrived home and I spoke to him for a little bit, I picked up that he was also sensitive to the paranormal and had some strong medium and psychic abilities himself. He was not causing the issue but while he was asleep he was super charging the energy present in the mirror. I explained it to him and his parents and suggested that the mirror at the very least be removed from the room for the activity to stop.

A few weeks later I received a phone call from Tim’s mom, the mirror had remained in Tim’s room until a few hours prior to this phone call. Tim’s father had another bad night and finally took my advice, in the middle of the night he picked the mirror up and walked it out to the dumpster. Since then I have checked in on the family and they have not had any more negative things occur in the house and they have taken my advice on how to help Tim day-to-day manage his gifts. I hope all those reading this join the conversation and start following and asking questions because I am here to help. Keep practicing and don’t doubt yourself!



By the very meaning of the word “medium” we are the in between. We are the contact between two worlds and we have a very special job to do, the deceased rely on us to hear and speak for them and the living rely on us to relay that message. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that you have been practicing your Claire abilities and have been picking up on those who have passed and now you are saying “what do I do with this information?”

I wish that I could say that the answer is always easy, but unfortunately it isn’t always cut and dry. We have to take the information we get and decide when to put it into action, when is the right moment to give a message to a person? If you have intentionally stepped into a situation to do a reading then the answer is of course easy, tell the person you are helping the message. Easy peasy. Now if you are wandering around the food store or mall or public park and you get the tingle and a message starts coming in your task could be tremendously difficult to handle, that’s the truth for seasoned mediums and beginners. On television we see mediums do this task with ease and they make it look very simple and very matter of fact. In my opinion it is not that easy, even for them.

If I wish to speak to those who pass I have to do a little ritual to let them know I am ready to talk, if I walked around ready to go all the time I would be exhausted. It is my opinion that these other professionals open themselves up for the television segment so that they can get the dramatic footage of the reading out in the public setting, I am not saying that this is a set up! Just that they are opening up to do a reading, got it? Good! Moving on, when we are open all the time and this is especially when we are first learning we tend to get all kinds of information and spirits who want to talk, we have to ask ourselves “Who is the message for and are they ready to hear it?” I try my best to keep away from this type of reading, I have not had any negative come from them but if I were to make it routine then I could find myself doing them to the point of no end and potentially upsetting the people around me. My advice to you is to make sure you have a signal to start and end readings. I take several deep breaths and rub my hands together and state “I am ready to listen.” The spirits then know I am ready.

Let’s say for the sake of the article that you are getting a strong message and it needs to come out, how do you interpret what is coming to you and who it is for? In my experience I have been lucky, in the way that the person who the message is for is right in front of me and couldn’t be any more clear who I am supposed to look for. With that I would say that most times that will be the case, and every once in a while you will get incomplete information or just a name and have no idea what to do with it. When that happens to me I simply apologize and tell the spirit to come to me when there is a better chance to convey the message, this works every time. Recently I was asked how can you find someone if you have a message for them? I don’t think that there is a simple answer but you can put the intention into the universe by stating that you are looking for the recipient of that message. The Universe is pretty cool, if the message is relayable it will be delivered one way or another.

After you identify who the message is for you need to speak for the deceased, this can be tricky. First you have to make sure the living person is receptive to the idea that you are a medium and someone wants to speak to them from the other side. I would suggest being polite and respectful of course and asking them how they feel about the subject of mediums. Most times I think the person is receptive because the spirit would not have tried to make contact otherwise. Next you have to relax a little and remember that the message is not for you, it is for the person or people in front of you. When the names, images and words come to your mind it is very important to let them out exactly how you see them without adding your own filter or spin on it. By dropping your interpritation on the message you will leave it untainted and exactly how the spirit intends to convey it. For instance if I were to see a red fire hydrant I would say that I see a red fire hydrant, not that I see a fireman or a fire truck or ask about fire. This is because I could be missing the point of the image. The fire hydrant could be a funny decoration or the key point to a story that all involved have shared and there was never a fire or firemen, just that red fire hydrant.

If you get names and they sound funny that is ok! We cannot know every name ever, believe me. Even if you were to read a big book of names you couldn’t commit them all to memory and make them useful, it would be a waste of time. Instead when you hear a name, ask for it to be spelled out and if that doesn’t work ask for them to sound it out. Mimic the sound that you can hear in your head and try to pronounce it, you will be astounded when the person receiving the message says the name and it’s exactly what you thought it would be. This goes the same for everything else, dates and numbers and places and objects. If you are unsure ask spirit to make it more clear or put it into better context.

Do not be frustrated with spirit or readee if things aren’t going as well as you’d hoped. I like to make it a habit to write all the information that I get down on notebook paper. This allows for me to look at my train of thought and also be able to go back to older info that could help a little while into the reading. This also helps when nothing is making sense and the reading has come to an end, you can leave the writing with the client and let them match things up. Many times the client will call days later and tell you that you were spot on with information but that they were unaware or that they had forgotten about it. Keep practicing and be sure of yourself because you are doing great!




In the last few days I have come across people who have stated that they can feel other people’s emotions and physical pain. They then asked if that was normal or if there was something wrong with them. Good news! If this sounds like you, you are just fine! You are what is called an “empath.” You’ve of course heard about empathy or feeling empathetic towards someone or their situation right? This gift is an actual physical and mental manifestation of that statement, a great example is when someone says they are having sympathy pains for someone close. Like when a woman is in labor and the man is having stomach pain or a child injures themselves and the parent can feel the physical pain the child is in, being an empath is just like that except it comes from every person around you. There are cases of people who are strong empaths not even being able to watch news casts do to the fact of so many bad stories involving death or pain.

Is being an empath an exaggeration of your own feelings or are you really feeling what the other person is feeling?  I am an empath I can say that it is not the case for me  at all, being over emotional or easily put into physical pain are not traits that I have. I would say that if you are reading this and what I have said so far makes sense that you are the same and have the gift or as some people have said the curse of being an empath. Sometimes being out in public can be unbearable and pushes us into feeling anxious and sick and possibly even causes us to feel depressed. Taking in all the emotions that people around you are feeling and mixing them together is pretty miserable. I am not a Doctor or medically trained, and it is only my opinion but I do believe that many empaths become addicts of drugs and alcohol and other bad vices. These people do to not understand how sensitive they are to other people’s emotions. In an attempt to dull what they are experiencing they turn to substance abuse or other outlets that truly do not bring permanent relief and often times compound the problem.

Well what do we do when we feel these overwhelming emotions or the physical pain of a stranger? No one wants to feel like a miserable person if they are normally very happy and healthy. We have a few defenses against taking on other people’s baggage; they include some very basic things like meditations and visualizations. Now, I have stated before that I am a no nonsense kind of person when it comes to these topics so I have taken the things that work for me and am bringing them to you. They are part of the solid foundation that I have built for myself and I do believe will work for most people who find this site. First and foremost my favorite, meditations! Clearing your mind is always going to be the quickest way to feeling better.

If you are in the supermarket or other really public place and feel the panic and depression or anxiety start to come over you simply take a few deep breaths through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Imagine all of the emotions that you are having leaving your body when you exhale. Close your eyes briefly and ask yourself if you are sad or upset at all, if the answer is no then imagine a white canvas in front of you and make sure you put your own emotion there. You should not be feeling anyone else’s energy in your field at all and if you do, go back to your breathing and keep pushing that nasty feeling out until you are relaxed again. Make sure to tell yourself that you are fine and that there is nothing that is allowed into your energy field that will affect you in a negative or subvert way. Truly your words have the ability to get you out of harm’s way and back to your day.

The other piece of advice that I would offer is to buy a stone, I use obsidian and tourmaline. They are two crystals that have natural energies that offer grounding, centering and protection against negative vibes. Yes I do believe in the power of crystals, even in my no nonsense approach there is a spot for a pocket full of rocks. Why you ask? Well because even if you don’t believe in the power of the stones you can believe in the intentions that are attached to them. So if you picked up a pebble and said “This is my protection rock and it will keep me safe from bad vibes” then it will, because your words and thoughts have power and influence over everything around you. Your intention of the stone being protective will bring you a piece of mind when you grab it during times of high anxiety or bad feelings. Your own energy infused with an object to focus on and your intention to not be taken over by others baggage will be enough to keep you protected.

That’s the key word when you are an empath “protection.” There are many other ways besides meditation and that includes prayer and positive affirmations and even a personal favorite of mine, rubbing sea salt on while taking a shower. Sea salt is an excellent way to break energy fields and cleans our own Aura fields(something we will go over another time). In the mean time I want you to practice deep breaths, clearing your mind and projecting your own will outward to keep yourself from feeling what everyone else is going through. Your ability to protect yourself is in your hands, pick up some of the tools I have given you and go with it, don’t stop here either. Go ahead and get on that Google and search “empath.” Don’t stop until you have the answers you are looking for. If you have any questions please feel free to email me and I can discuss it further with you if you like. Stay safe and remember to practice, practice, and practice!


If I Tell people I see Ghosts they will think I am crazy.

If I tell people I see ghosts they will think I am crazy. If I had a dollar for every time I had that thought in my life I would have enough money to pay someone to write this for me. Seriously, we all feel that way. Every one of us who have a bit of the gift or the full version of it has that thought, and why wouldn’t we? When people say they can hear or see something no one else can we think that there is a mental health issue with that person or that they are crazy or talking to their dog and listening to the directions Fido is giving on how to make his steak properly. Sure out there in the world there are people who do need help and should be questioning the things that they hear, what makes us different? For starters the voices are gentle and the people we see are not severely angry and telling us to hurt ourselves or anyone else. We experience for the most part spirits who are looking for help, or those who are just roaming and looking to get some attention or tell a story. I am not a Doctor and nothing you read here should be taken as medical advice, if you feel you need to speak to a professional than do so. There is never anything wrong with looking to a professional for help.

One of the things that you should be asking yourself is “How often do I experience seeing or hearing spirits and where does it occur the most often?” This could help you determine if you are living in a very active environment or if you are a magnet and experience phenomenon everywhere. As a matter of fact it could be both and that’s great too. So, when did you start noticing that you could see hear and talk to people who weren’t there? How did you know the difference between live people and spirits? Does this sound familiar? As a child I would carry on conversations with people and my parents would tell me to stop because there was no one there. I would walk into buildings and homes and know the names of people who lived there and that they had passed on. I would have visitors in my room at night and they would bother me and frighten me, my parents would just chalk it up to over active imagination and childish behavior. Is any of that ringing a bell? Probably right and now that you are older and reading this it is starting to flood back to you and the memories are very similar to what you are reading.

It’s wonderful to have such a great gift, or it’s awful. That depends on who you ask, I love it but I know very gifted folks who just want to turn it off and lead a “normal” life. I have news for them and everyone else, it is more normal to be so connected to the spirit world than it is to be so disconnected like our society has become. Not to get all preachy, I am just saying that looking back at recorded human history that our ancestors had much more spiritual bases for living and we seem to have lost that. It’s ok though because right now there is a huge amount of people waking up every morning and realizing that there is more out there and they are becoming open to the things we are discussing here. That’s what is important, not that other people are accepting of what we can do but that it is on more people’s minds and that makes the connection to the spirit world stronger. The veil gets thinner every time another person becomes more accepting that there may be more out there than what we perceive on the physical plane.

Hold on Scott, what the heck is the veil and what do you mean it gets easier for us? The veil simply is a reference to what separates our physical world to the next dimension and the spirit world. I once heard a Medium say that the next dimension was only 3 feet in front of us at all times. Think about that for a few minutes, it makes what we are talking about a little more tangible. The idea that the more people who are accepting of any idea is the concept of collective thought. For example, one person dreamt that as humans we could go into outer space then that idea caught on and more people thought it was possible and that moved the idea and concept forward to the point that it happened. If a million people are saying that they believe that there is another world or dimension and there are those who can tap into it and communicate with beings there than that is a strong collective thought. If ten million people accepted and believed it then it would be a tremendously strong idea and make the overall phenomenon easier to attain. That collective thought also affects people who may not have a psychic bone in their body, and it’s just enough that if you told them you had gifts that allowed spirit communication that they would not scoff or blow you off or think you were crazy.

I myself have been experiencing this more than I have ever in my life. I have to give a huge thanks to the television people who gave all the ghost hunters and mediums a show on major networks a shot. Those people have increased the acceptance that there may be more to life than what we just see in front of us. They have shown us that there are forces that can manipulate electronics, talk to an audio recorder and even manifest as shadows on film. Does this turn a skeptic into a believer? I don’t think so but it certainly does put a seed of thought in them that there could be something to it. The same things with the famous mediums and psychics on television, they often have segments where they are in public and give random strangers a message from a deceased relative. Does this make a believer of everyone? No but it sure does make folks feel good and give them hope that there is more out there and when we pass that it’s not darkness and nothing to look forward to.

This brings me to my point; don’t be afraid to exercise your gifts. Don’t be afraid to tell your family or friends about what you can do. You would be surprised at how accepting they will be, now if they are not I wouldn’t recommend trying to shove it down their throats. That’s also not healthy and not what we are here to do. Simply put it out there and gauge what they say, see of you will get that support that you are looking for. If you are not getting any support or they do think you are crazy it may be best to just branch out and find other local people who are like minded as you are and find support in them.  In no time at all your abilities will manifest themselves and your courage and confidence will develop with them. Remember that you can always come here and ask questions and feel free to comment and look for help. That’s what this is all about. Remember to practice and don’t doubt yourself, we have a ways to go together and this is just the start. See you next time.


The Third Eye



I am ready to see what else you have to offer Scott, what’s next? I’m going to talk to you about an eye you didn’t know you had, or maybe you did and didn’t know what it was or how to use it. It is what we psychics call “The Third Eye.” Don’t let the idea of having a third eye scare you away, you’ve had it your whole life and more than likely have used it a few times unknowingly. The third eye is located between your eyes and between your ears and is inside your head, it is not like your other eyes though. It is called the pineal gland and it is located on the brain, you can google it when you have the time, the placement is only mildly important and the physicality of it is not really important to us here at this level.

When I was young I would take my pointer finger and close my two physical eyes and slowly move my outstretched finger toward my forehead until it got super tingly. This is something that I thought was normal and that everyone could do, little did I know that wasn’t true and that I was activating my third eye. At the time I had never heard of the third eye and I had never heard of being psychic and I certainly had no idea of the journey ahead of me.  As I got older an my abilities got stronger I investigated and found what the third eye was and what it did, and why when I would play my game that I would have more concentrated feelings and emotions. Have you ever felt that tingle in the center of your forehead or any pressure? What were the circumstances?

Now I am going to give you a quick exercise to try, it’s my little childhood game so it’s fun.  First take a deep breath through your nose and feel it go into your belly, now exhale and let it out your mouth. After you have done this several times and feel nice and relaxed move to the second step. This is next part, I want you to close your eyes and clear your mind. Let go of all the things on your mind, the bills the noise the family and all your troubles, imagine a blank movie screen. The third step is to slowly move your finger toward the center of your head. Are you starting to feel anything physically or are you getting any images that you can see with your eyes closed?  Don’t be surprised if you see colors and feel pressure and or tingling in the center of your forehead. If this feels uncomfortable go ahead and stop, rub your forehead and do it again when you are ready. This simple exercise is the easiest way of opening that third eye, it is a simple exercise and can be done just about anywhere. Just do this a few times a week and it will help you focus on using that third eye when it is needed. Eventually just thinking about doing this exercise will activate your third eye, mine is tingling as I write this and that is how powerful a tool this is.

Scott, ok here’s the thing, when is it going to be needed? I can tell you when I use it and how, this can be a guide for how you can use your third eye or simply a jumping point for you to start your own journey on what to do with it. I use it when I get that feeling in my gut that says I need to pay attention or that there is more to a situation than I am picking up with my other five senses. Let’s  say I walk into a home of a friend and I get a nagging feeling that there is someone who wants to talk that I don’t see and no one else is acknowledging, I simply close my eyes and concentrate on my third eye. I take several deep breaths and let images come to me in my little movie theater in my head, the third eye projects images on the screen and I get the information I need. Sometimes it’s a name or a photo of a person who wants to communicate or just a sprit roaming around the house that wants to be acknowledged.  After this starts happening to you it’s important to remember to not be scared, nothing is going to hurt you and you are in control of everything happening.

With that I can also tell you that this tool is very handy for those of us who get feelings that we can’t shake and need to express in some form. Imagine that you have your cell phone out and are getting messages but your screen isn’t displaying the information, you know that there is a message but without the screen you can’t see who is trying to reach you or what they want. This amazing gift that we all possess is the same thing but it is built into us, we just need to learn how to access it and use it. The next time you get that unshakable feeling that you need to know something, close your eyes and preform the exercise from above. What images or words are you receiving, what do they mean and how do they relate to what you are doing?

The most important lesson I can teach every time with each technique and I will repeat often is that you should not second guess yourself. Validation will come to you in ways that will surprise you, when you are least expecting it and in forms you couldn’t guess. I know that sounds kind of cryptic but just remember that when you are getting information it is not always strait forward and to the point, as an example I once received an image of an orchid flower with a fire in the center of it. What the heck did that mean? Well I was doing a reading for a woman and she understood it completely, a friend of her had recently passed in a fire and at the funeral there were orchids everywhere. So that was validation of who I was talking to and helped me connect to that person better. Don’t be frustrated if at first information is scattered and kind of all over the place, you will get better with practice and focus. If you had never written a note with your weak hand you wouldn’t expect to write a perfect letter to someone the first try. The letters and punctuation would look sloppy and poorly done but with practice it would get better and this is what we are working on here, even myself every day I have to practice and know that I work with a certain amount of room for error. Don’t be discouraged and keep practicing, until next time thanks for reading!


Our first story, together.


Let’s take a break from the flow for a minute and have a little fun in the form of a few ghost stories!  I love to tell a good ghost story and I hope you like to read them.  Several months ago I decided to take my wife to the movies, we were going to see Dead Pool in the opening week and it was sold out at our local Giantplex movie house. After a few minutes of enduring the usual ribbing of why I didn’t check beforehand if they were sold out we decided to go to a smaller and much older movie house in a small town that neighbors ours.

The town is nestled up against the Atlantic Ocean and has had its fair share of ghostly lore attached to it. It’s a middle class blue collar town with a mix of just about every type of person you could imagine. The theater is located on the main strip of the old town in succession of buildings all built together like one big store front down the quarter mile of concrete and glass on both sides. Walking up to the theater is very unassuming; it has the usual movie posters outside and the luring smell of over buttered popcorn wafting through the closed doors. My wife and I went into the theater where an enthused teenager was selling tickets for the next showing of the Marvel movie. Looking around I could see that the theater was pretty empty, the small lobby had no one in it but the three of us and in my normal humor I asked if there were any seats left. The kid behind the counter gave me the same look my own kid gives me when I make a bad dad joke, and promptly completed the transaction moving us on into the area that leads to the three small movie theaters inside.

The small lobby is decorated in dark red with gold trim and wooden panel walls, very classic movie house feel and that is part of the charm of this theater. I hadn’t been to this theater in years, my dad used to take me there when I was younger to see every movie I had pretty much ever seen. As I made it into my teenage years the big theater opened and we all kind of forgot about this little jewel. From here I’m going to say that fate brought me to this theater, who knew Ryan Reynolds playing a crazy comic book character would lead to such a life changing event?

While walking into theater room one I got that urge, the urge to look around for spirit or a spirit for that matter. I spotted an old clock the kind that people refer to as a Grandfather clock and probably the perfect clock to mention in a ghost story. After a brief look around the corners and down the narrow hall I didn’t spot anything that warranted a psychic look so we continued into the theater, which was empty besides two other movie goers and us. As we waited for the movie to start rolling I found my attention pulled to the first row of the theater where I spotted what I was looking for, a spirit. The ghost if you will, was very regular looking, in the way that he was dressed in a suit and had his grey hair combed over his bald spot. He looked back at me and we acknowledged each other, this wasn’t too normal for me but I wasn’t afraid because it was in the world of kind of normal. I mentioned to my wife that I could see him and she as usual told me that she could not see the invisible person I was talking about.

The movie played and we had a great time, I forgot the ghost was there and didn’t pay attention to him the rest of the time we were there, this could be the first step in the direction of what I did wrong that night. We made it home, a short 10 minute drive back to the house. I locked the doors and my wife made sure the children were in bed. I did my usual wind down for the evening, a little facebook and Instagram and got ready for bed. That night I had one of the worst nights sleep ever and so did my wife, I was tossing and turning and when I did fall asleep I felt like my skin was crawling and making me want to stay awake. The morning came and the day went by like any other day. That evening as we were getting ready for bed, my wife asked me to sleep on the couch if I was going to toss and turn all night. I agreed to that request because two nights of my wife not having a good night sleep could be detrimental to everyone’s wellbeing.

I made my nest on the couch and turned in for the night at about ten thirty or so. This is where if you get scared easy you may want to skip over to the end. I was woken up with an icy grip of two hands around my throat, pressing so hard that I could feel my airway collapsing and so much pressure I was sunk into the couch. I immediately thought that someone was in the house and trying to kill me. I started to flail my arms and with my eyes open I could not see a thing but what I can only describe as stars appearing before me as I lost breath. I couldn’t feel a body on top of me and this kicked in my psychic awareness, this is an attack by a spirit. I retreated into my head quickly, reciting every prayer I knew and begging for the help of my Guardian Angels, Guides and God. Half way through my second prayer the grip released and I was able to spring up from the couch fully awake. I saw my attacker in the form of a black shadow and chased it across my living room to the stairs that lead to the bedrooms. The shadow split into pieces and dissipated. I calmed my nerves down and said several more prayers and an intention to keep my home protected from that spirit and any others that were going to do me or my family harm.

This event lead me to make a desperate call for help to a local paranormal investigation team, the Paranormal Activity Research Society of NJ. I was able to write them an email of the account and ask them if they had ever heard any accounts of that theater having activity. Within a few hours my phone rang and the founder of the team was on the line with me, no doubt seeing if I was a cook or for real. After giving him the rundown of myself and my abilities he decided that there was  some validity to my tale. As fate would have it, he lived in the town where the theater was located and knew the owner. After reaching out to the owner of the theater my contact on the team was able to find out that there were stories about the theater but nothing was ever confirmed.

Fast forward a little bit, I was invited to be on the team and now am an active member. We were invited to investigate the theater whenever we were ready and will be doing so soon. I have not returned there personally yet and have no desire to, whatever is there was angry I had seen it and took its anger out on me in my home. It is important for everyone at every level to protect themselves from the spirits that roam, they are the same that they were in life and if they were angry alive then they are angry on the other side. If you come in contact with a spirit make sure that you say out loud before leaving the location that they are not welcome to follow you or leave the area they are in.

I hope you liked my story and I promise that there are many more plus there will be developments later on this story once we go to the theater to investigate. As always, thanks for reading and I hope to have you come back.   -Scotty